July 13, 2003
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The Friday Five
1. Do you remember your first best friend? Who was it?
My first best friend was Nelly A, she lived across the street from me. I grew up with her. She was the same age as me and she was a missionary's kid, so she had some rebellion in her as she became a teen and we drifted a part somewhat. When we were little, like 2 and 3 years old, we would get into all kinds of trouble together. There was one time, we ran away and hid under a outside stair case on the college campus close to where we lived. I still can't believe we did this when I was that young. I look at my 4 year old and even my 8 year old and if they ever did anything like I did when I was younger and their age, I would litterally KILL them! shhhhh, don't tell them that though
There was another time that we locked ourselves in her family bathroom. It was on the main floor and there was a laundry shoot down to a cage like thing in the basement. We could see her older sister sitting near by and sewing. Nelly said she had jumped down this shoot many times before. She tossed her dolly down there to show me that it was harmless and I wouldn't get hurt because I would land on clothes. I wanted to do this, but I was really scared to. We must have spent a really long time in there because our parents couldn't find us. It was close to lunch time and I could hear my mom hollering for me to come to her and of course I didn't (and again, don't tell my children this!) We simply sat in that bathroom and thought it was funny they couldn't find us. hmmmmm. We never did jump down that shoot, and Nelly was so upset because now her dolly was downstairs and we couldn't get to it. Our plan was to scare her older sister once we were down there. Alas, our plan was foiled! Someone had to use the bathroom and wondered why the door was locked.... they found us, and I don't remember much after that, but my mom likes to remind me that I got punished! lol As a parent I say.... I should hope so!!!! But of course when I was that age, I thought it was totally unfair!
2. Are you still in touch with this person?
No, not much. I see her once in awhile when she comes to town. I still live in the same town, but she doesn't. I see her at reunions, as we went to the same school and the same college. I know the highlights of her life as I see her mom sometimes and she lets me know, and I tell her what is new in mine so that she can tell Nelly. See... Nelly started really acting out on her wild side when in college and really didn't want to be around me, and I really didn't think what she was doing was a good plan. Yes, I "sewed my wild oats" at college too, they just weren't as wild as Nelly's were I guess. I still think of her often
When we were in 1st grade, she went away to Bolivia with her parents and I missed her terrible so! We wrote back and forth a lot. I was so happy when she came back in 4th grade!
3. Do you have a current close friend?
Yes, I have several. One being my dh, he is one of my dearest friends. We don't have the perfect marriage, but I can say that we are more than in love, we are very close friends too. That is what our relationship started out as, very close friends and it simply progressed to something more
I also have other close friends, none of which live near me, they are either close friends I have had that have moved away, although we still keep in contact, or they are online friends that I have never met. There are some that I have had the wonderful oppurtunity of meeting and it has only strengthend our friendship
They know who they are! My friends are such a blessing to me. They are truly a gift from God. And something that I really do not deserve.
4. How did you become friends with this person?
I partially answered this already. My dh, I met online, and my lifelong friendship, Barb, I met on youth fellowhip conference when I was in middle school, we have remained friends still.... I do miss our closeness we had at one time and pray that we will once again be close. We have been friends for 24 years! The other friends that I am currently closer to are online friends and we met at yahoogroups. I also met my dh on a yahoogroup for abuse survivors. All of these people in my life are Christians and they are such wonderful support, but I think I have said that
5. Is there a friend from your past that you wish you were still in contact with? Why?
Yes and no, there are friends that are in my past, that at sometimes I wish we were close, but then I think, you know, we don't really have that much in common any more. There are friends of mine from HS that still live here in town, but I really don't have a lot to do with people here in town because when I work I work outside of my little town, and the people that I grew up with are all going our different ways. Not to say that they are not nice people, because they really are. There are 2 here in town, Lori and Sha that have been good friends, and are good friends, but we don't run around together. We all have children the same age, but I am homeschooling and theirs go to public school, although because of some issues I think one of them may be considering private school. Sha married a lawyer and they are so happy and Casey is such a good man, but they don't run in my circle so to speak. They lead a life that is much more in "high society" than I ever care to be. Sha is still really nice and sweet and I love her to death, but we just don't have a lot of common ground any more. We still see each other and pray for each other, that is the biggy, we pray for each other. Lori is a teacher and we see each other too, and once again it is simply that they are busy with their children and they have really close friends that they do things with. They are really good friends with the pastor of the church I used to go to. There aren't any hard feelings or anything there, it just isn't what was meant to happen. We keep up with what is going on with each other, but that is about it. I do wish I could talk more with Barb, but.... she is very busy with church, work, and travel. I write her emails and it can be weeks before she answers, which, I being the email junky that I am, I really don't understand that lol.... Anyway, I know we will always be friends, she has been there for me through thick and thin. I think they weren't quite sure what to think when I got out my abusive situation, because that is kind of when the corrispondence deteriorated drastically. I think I am going to send Barb an email here after I am done with this
There is also Jo, she is so sweet, and I have completely lost track of her 
I would like to find her again.... She is from OH, living in IN last I knew and she also was in an abusive relationship and she helped me so much know what to do to get out of mine. I am eternally grateful for her friendship and support. But, unfortunately we have lost contact.
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